At a Crossroads
31 May 2024
At a crossroads ? How to make a decision?
Yesterday when we hiked, there we came across an intersection. Well, which way this time?
Left or right?
"Follow the road sign" - the one that points to our destination.
So many times in lives, we are at a crossroads, e. g. which major to choose at Uni; which job to pick; how to deal with our family, our beloved, or our best friends whom we have loads of mixed feelings etc.
Whenever I am at a crossroads, I will quickly jump into a "problem solving" mode - evaluating all potential consequences and implications of each possible choices. For example:
What are the pros?
What are the cons?
What are the risks?
What are the challenges?
Worry that if I can bear all these risks?
Anxious that if I am willing to experience all the challenges....etc.
Follow by exploring and analyzing the next ten possibilities...and the next tens... Yes, I know that I have been thinking for long... sometime I know that I have become too meticulous; sometime I am even lost and have to begin again....and still, I can't make up my mind!
At many times, I forget the most important point - forget to evaluate the options based on my values - my life values!
Believe it or not! Whenever I include my life values at my crossroads, the choice(s) suddenly pop up. Decision turns simpler, easier and clearer!
Well, those pros, cons, risks or challenges that I have evaluated before, fade out gradually. Yes, these points are noted, and yet they are no longer that important.
When one is at a crossroads, choices can be made in a simpler and easier manner!
If you are at a crossroads now, perhaps you might like to consider trying this way - allow your life values to be embraced at this important moment of your life!
